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She Said Yes... to Waiting!

Dear Single Mom,

I did something that I thought I could never do, something that I felt like I would never want to do! I decided to announce in front of a group of ladies from my life group and Pastor Charisse that I will stay celibate until I was married. It is important to have Christian friends to encourage you and keep you accountable to live a godly life.

God tells us in the book of Genesis to be fruitful and multiply. Sex is meant to be enjoyed and is a demonstration of love, but only in marriage. There are scriptures that state sex before marriage is a sin. Hebrews 13:4 says that marriage should be honored by all, that the marriage bed should be kept pure and, He will judge fornicators and those who commit adultery.

I once had the mindset that I could have sex and then ask for forgiveness because our God is such a forgiving God. But God only approves of sex between a husband and his wife. So although I asked for forgiveness, more needed to be done. I had to repent. Repenting is much more than a spur of the moment; I am sorry, forgive me, Lord. True repentance was acknowledging my actions and feeling regret, all while being committed to change for the better. A change of heart that led me to turn away from sin. For me, that was ending a relationship that was based on lust instead of love. God desires for my heart to be aligned with His will, including waiting to have sex until the day I am married.

If my future marriage has the potential to show the world the incredible love and grace of God, doesn’t it make sense that the enemy would want to try to destroy it?

Before you read my vows, I want to define what it is and how it is viewed in the bible. A vow is a serious promise. Ecclesiastes 5:4-5 says, “When you make a vow to God, do not delay to fulfill it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.” And in Numbers 30:2, it says, “When a man makes a vow to the Lord or takes an oath to obligate himself by a pledge, he must not break his word but must do everything he said.”

My Vows to Jesus

I vow to trust your plans for me.

I vow to trust that you will answer my prayers and send me the man that was specifically made for me to spend the rest of my life with.

A man that would love my child and me.

A man that will cover me in prayer and always lead me back to you.

A man who is patient, kind, humble, truthful, and faithful, just like you, God.

So today, I vow to wait until marriage to have sex.

While I am waiting,

I vow to run away from anyone or anything that can cause me to sin.

I vow not to entertain a relationship that does not have you at the center.

I vow to view myself through your eyes.

A daughter of a King.

Forgiven and chosen.

♥ Julie Cruz

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Julie Cruz
Julie Cruz
Dec 15, 2020

Hi Daisy, we have not met but I have requested you as a friend on Facebook (well I hope it is you, if not that would be awkward lol). I really appreciate the support. I also purchased the book and it will be here in two days. I will reach out to you once I'm done reading the book. Thank you so much for the recommendation. God bless you, sis!


dee rey
dee rey
Dec 14, 2020

Good morning Julie, while I do not think that we know each other, I just want you to know that I'm very proud and happy of this important and life altering decision that you have chosen to make for your life. I too made that decision years ago and it was the best thing I did. No it's not easy but dont give up, keep going and the more you keep going the easier it will be and you will definitely see all the beautiful things that God, our father, has for your life. If per chance you dont have or read the book "The Wait" go and get it. It's a blessing for women like us who have thi…

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