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Dear Sister,

I am so sorry that you feel hurt. I know personally breakups are not easy to deal with. Just remember God is close, and He is intimately concerned with everything that breaks your heart. No matter how small or insignificant you think, it is. Psalm 34:18 tells us that Jesus is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Here’s some advice on some steps that’s helped me move on.

  1. Filling in your time. You spent a lot of time with this person, and now you have time to think about what you shared. Fill the space with positive things that make you happy. Do you have a hobby, workout routine? Try not to spend all your alone time being sad. It is ok to mourn, but don’t let that be all you do. Hang out with godly girlfriends. Reach out to someone that you can trust and talk about it. It would be best if you didn’t try to deal with this alone. Talk to friends who will remind you of your identity, encourage you, and pray for you.

  2. When you feel the most lost and confused is time to get lost in worship. Worship is a lifeline through dark times. Read your bible and spend time with God. Read the truth when you feel unworthy and unloved. Remember who God calls you. Find your identity again, who you are in Christ. God has established your value. He calls you Friend John 15:15, Masterpiece Eph. 2:10, Treasure Deut. 7:6, Beloved SOS 2:16, Victorious Rom 8:37 and Chosen 1 Thess. 1:4.

  3. Close the door. If that person walks away, let them. Your destiny is not tied to anyone that left. 1 John 2:19 says They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would no doubt have continued with us: but they went out, that they might be made manifest that they were not all of us.

  4. Uprooting bitterness. This might be a tough one. Pray for him. Let all the anger go and forgive the person. I promise you, it does more for your own heart than the other person. Pray that they will mature and grow in their walk with God.

Isaiah 66:9 says I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born. This heartbreak you are enduring isn’t in vain. There is purpose in pain. I know it doesn’t feel right but hold on tight sister. You will get through this. Know you that we at She Prayed are praying that God will heal your heart, give you the strength and confidence to move forward and try again. God bless you sister; we love you.

With you,

Raquel Avilés

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